
Estelle Getty 1923 - 2008
I see you, looking confused at your screen, your thinking, “ok seriously we need to get this boy to a doctor or something, I mean, what the heck!”
Well I will press on regardless, and I will point out that if you are thinking that, well, sometimes I think I might sympathise with the sentiment myself!!! but honestly there is good reason for the tribute photo of the comedy Genius that is Estelle Getty, and the terrible accusation above.
There is a psychological experience that has a name and everything, its called ‘Impostor Phenomenon’ I read an article about it recently and it talked about this lady and how she ‘had it’ I would bet that there is not one person out there who does not recognize this face, and for those of you struggling, she was the ‘old one’ in the 80’s sitcom (plus many many re-runs) The Golden Girls. you have seen at least one episode! she apparently was also in a movie called ‘Stop or my Mom will Shoot’ sounds… amazing! anyway, (i know some of you have lives to live! I’m sorry!) it seems that there are a number of us that have this same experience including the writer of the article! here is a quote form her
“I live with fear as a constant companion. Can I do this week after week? Am I good enough? Will I be able to pull it off this week? Will I be able to fool them again?… …Wait till they find out I can’t do it.”
Now I will leave you to read the article and you can think what you will. I will say that there are aspects of this that are very true for me and of course some that are not. I also think this is true for so many people.
There will be an answer that is called out by many of you, and that is that all you need to do is find your worth and acceptance in God. And while this is true, i also feel it is an answer that misses something, or even, it expects something form the listener of that advice that is completely impossible, if you are indeed, experiencing this phenomenon. You see this is not a psychological issue, you read the article, the writer is simply stating that this is just the way he is, not that is something that needs to be fixed, rather it is something that needs to be handled the right way. What this answer does is it tries to fix something that will not be fixed, because the very nature of this ‘I P’ is that it is part of a persons movement forward, it has something intrinsically tied to the forward progress that the person is making, the unfortunate thing is that the person is only realising the negative part of the whole. I mean Estelle did not get where she was by being terrible, the reality is that what she thought she was pretending to do, she was still doing it, even though she was pretending!! she focused on the negative, but the rest of the world gave her awards.
I suppose my point is that there is this desire to be sincere, real honest you ARE what people see you as, and actually as long as that’s not ever realised my life continues to move on, I keep attempting to find it. you see the bottom line is that I am a searcher, that’s how I am with God, I am continually searching, for more, for something, for anything, my life is a search. so the very closed find your identity in God advise is exactly what I am doing, it just might look a little different that you might think!
There are problems though, like i said its how this phenomenon is dealt with, and I will admit to not doing to well with it in the past. and I think I managed to actively pursue a path that I ended up ACTUALLY living the life of a fraud. And simply put its because I tried to be definite, and non searching. I lived a life of closed definates that might not actually be all that definite! I don’t know, but i do need to find out. Rather than just rectify, it take a deep breath and carry on to the next thing. I want to keep searching, find something else, something, new.
I realise that I am creating so many questions for whoever might be reading this!! welI am sorry, but I like that its like that! I like that there are questions, questions find answers, and sometimes they find more questions. questions are to be asked, not always do they need to be answered. So i am actually glad to have the questions.
There are others that couldn’t give a…. whatever! and feel i have just waisted precious moments of you life, Please accept my apology!
i am going to go now. See what i can find!